This is SOOOOO GOOD!
Melissa at Shakesville is writing a series of posts for men who want to have more egalitarian interactions and relationships with women.
My faves from part 1:
1. Every woman is an expert on her own life and experiences.
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9. Don’t play Devil’s advocate. Seriously. Just don’t.
From part 2:
Men’s socialization includes strong disincentives against asking and listening, and strong incentives to reflexively prioritize their own judgment and perspective, which many narratives in our culture exist to (wrongly) assure them is Objective Truth. That is one of the grandest lies that privilege tells any of us—your perspective as a person of privilege is not subjective; you are better capable of assessing truth than anyone compromised by their marginalization.
Read it all!!!
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March 23, 2011 at 3:28 pm
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I read the whole thing, it is very thoughtful and well-expressed. I try to be totally Egalitarian with my wife, but this helped expose a few spots where I still ‘put her in her corner’ unintentionally. Good grist for the mill!